it is the most wonderful time of the year, for some that is, basketball season, more specifically, high school and kids basketball season. in my house, it is basketball season all year around, but this time a year is when all the work all year around hopefully pays off.
we are a full week back to school now, they even have already had their first day off! im that mom who is sad when summer is winding down, for lots of reasons, but this summer i just didnt want it to end.
i like having them home
i like the later nights outside
i like snuggling in bed with them late at night
i like movie nights
i love not making lunches
but most of all, i love that i have always had one of my kiddos in the car with me going to work each morning. this summer, that all changed.
she oh so confidently got on that bus, not a care or worry. not a single butterfly in her belly. it helps we have the best bus driver on the planet. seriously, miss tracy had a heart attack the week before school started, but still rode the bus the first week so the kids would know she would be there, she couldn’t miss the first day! she truly loves the kids, hugs them each morning and cries the last day of school.
now, i know, i know, she is more than ready, she needed the structure, she wants to learn, she is outgoing, helpful, kind and absolutely ready for kindergarten.
the teachers are amazing, kind and patient. the staff just awesome. but it is just something about the fact she is not just a building over, that peace of having her right there near me all day.
i always say, change is hard, i know this! change is good! she was ready for the change and has embraced and jumped right in with the change to kindergarten. away from the comfort of teachers whom have been with her nearly her whole life, who know her quirks and triggers, but i also know her new teachers will do the same and they all have the most exciting times ahead.
i will always miss the days of them being home with me though.
so take good care of my kiddos, of city schools. keep my kindergartner loving school, carefree and outgoing. keep my 4th grader sassy, smart and silly, keep my boy engaged and carefree and keep my first born smart, level headed and strong. you have them for the larger part of their day and i will do my work evenings and weekends.
in less than 180 school days i will be back on break from lunch packing!
ugh…why does this hurt so much.. not just the unfollow itself, but when others tell you they have unfollowed.
for example… i followed someone on social for awhile, i liked her posts, her content interested me, she sparked joy. what started as me reading each post, over time moved to me reading about half the post, then skimming through the post, read maybe half the post to eventually just scrolling by. then one friday, (yes, i do remember it was a friday, more to come on that.) i just felt i had to unfollow. so i did. later that day i was chatting with my work bff and told her:
‘i had to unfollow xxx.’
now my super compassionate, feeler work bff just said:
and shrugged it off. i apologized to her, as she is a huge fan of xxx and she proceeded to tell me in her always so wise way:
‘you don’t have to apologize to me. people bring different perspectives into your life at different times.’
my work bff is super, super wise, inspiring and smart. we then parted ways, as it was friday (see…there was a reason i remembered it was a friday).
i then moved through my weekend, but this conversation with my work bff kept popping into my head. it was one of those things i couldn’t shake and i was feeling bad.
maybe i was too harsh
i shouldn’t have even told her
why do i always say so much
learn to just shut up
i was feeling bad. i almost texted my pal, but decided to wait to talk to her first thing monday morning.
monday morning came, i marched directly into her office, gave her a hug and told her i was sorry.
‘good morning, why are you sorry?’ my ever so compassionate work bff says.
‘i was harsh, i should have never just blurted out i had to unfollow xxx.’
she proceeded to tell me i was (still am) crazy.
a few weeks later i am teaching my insanity class. my friend tells me:
‘sorry liz, but i had to unfollow xxx, i was so sick and tired of him taking selfies in his underwear.’
‘oh’ my reply.
but i gotta say, it kind of stung a little bit. i almost felt like she was telling me she unfollowed me and my feeling was a little hurt. my first reaction was to respond, defensively. my head instantly went back to my conversation with my work bff, this is how she felt!
so i replied with:
‘you don’t have to apologize to me. people bring different perspectives into your life at different times.’
the wise words of my dear friend came right out.
whats my point?
there are 2:
- surround yourself with good people. just like you are always told. good brings good, kindness brings kindness. keep that good karma all around you, all of the freaking time. keep those good people around you all the freaking time, it matters.
- don’t let social media affect you like that. as with anything, interests change. something may not appeal to you any longer, people evolve and change and people and content are brought into your life to move you through that period.
i had that app on my phone that would tell me who starting following me, who unfollowed me. needless to say, but that app is gone…unfollow.
i love athleta, shocking. i have been a gap girl most of my life, back in the high school day when i wore rugby shirts, button downs, long sweaters, all in size xl. i actually wasnt a size xl, but in the 80’s-90’s oh xl was so so popular. the bigger, the baggier the better. now i probably am an xl, and maybe should be wearing that size…but that is for another post. athleta is gap, so it just makes sense it is my go to for not only fitness clothes, but just cute stuff!
and bigger bonus…i get to teach insanity there! every weekend my local store, crocker park, offers free classes. it is great because you can try out all different types of workouts and then shop…ummm win! did i mention the class is free. so just when you think you may fall over from exhaustion, you look around and see those cute tights you want to wear, or that bathing suit hanging in front of you and it keeps you motivated to stay in it! check out your local store, i betcha they have classes too.
tomorrow morning i am teaching insanity, so pumped for that! i love sharing my insanity love, and more so love motivating people with a great workout!
so for my oh hey friday 5 i am sharing my top 5 athleta picks…im hoping to score these over the next couple of weeks.
1// lets just start off with the toughest one…swim suit. i have so much trouble buy bathing suits, that is until athleta came along. i need actual bra sizes for a top, the girls need to be locked in and held up, it is a full time job. i mean even the description of this top says it all.
BRA-SIZED SUPPORT. Underwire design with molded cups lifts and supports the girls like individuals
thank you athleta designers, thank you!
and to make it even better, you mix and match, so you pick the style you want for the top and bottom. i just love those blousy tops and so many options for bottoms, that makes me and my areas that need to be covered, very happy.
bathing suit shopping, not bad, almost enjoyable. if/when my arms look like these, it will even be more enjoyable!
2// i am also a big fan of these rashguards. um, not for the reason that they are named after, i am not diving down deep into the ocean. my use for them is as a cover up. super cute to keep everything in only to be taken off when i am strategically placed in my chair and properly prepared to lay in the sun. read that as ensured everything is in place prior to the rash guard coming off. they make it more like a sporty outfit, win/win.
3// im a huge fan of athleta dresses. i have a few and love them. so comfy, great fit, nice and cool and super cute. you can dress them up with heels and jewelry, or just throw it on to run out. i need to try this one on, nice and breezy, flowy, summery, comfy. everything i would dream a dress would be and more! now i just need somewhere to go in it.
4// i may have picked up this sweatshirt a bunch of times. i may have petted it, and it may just be the softest thing ever. it may just be time for me to break down and take it home with me. if i did, i may just hang it up and look at each day and pet it. im not kidding…it is so super soft!
5// ahhh…im wearing these babies tomorrow, i have already snatched these up and cant wait to test them out. these salutation pants are the bomb.com. they hold it all in and stay up!! that is key, it drives me out of my mind when i have to keep hiking my pants up during a run or workout. i know the people around me appreciate it when my pants stay up too. again, thank you athleta designers, thank you. and the mesh and the cute cut out…i just love it!
i must add, these are all practical purchases i plan on making. i mean, staples, that i can have for an extended period and i will get tons of use out of them. again, win/win.
what are your must have’s?
I used to be that mom, the one who had her children coordinating in super cute outfits, awesome egg hunts for all the kids and cousins, a scrumptious brunch for the family. but now… boy, that has all changed. now that we are a week out from easter, i think i have accepted it.
1// past – i coordinated kids in easter outfits
present – the kids have clothes on
I think this is where it went south, at some point after J came along.
maybe it was i couldn’t keep up with getting 3 kids cute that early in the morning.
I spent money on these cute outfits, they coordinated, I did their hair, had them looking good.
then, those clothes never got worn again. into the closet they would go and sold at the next resale event, if they would even sell. i think i have given away multiple cute little ballet flats in every size.
i mean come on…does this kid even look happy in this hat?
i wanted her to look adorable in her easter bonnet, but we didn’t even go to church, so I’m dressing her up to push her outside into the cold, muddy, wet backyard.
we live in CLE, the chance of having warm, tank top dress weather in the CLE at easter is slim, like really slim. I mean often times we have hunted for eggs in the snow and more often rain. i have never understood how or why we have these super cute sundresses. unless it comes with a warm, warm overcoat, cute snow/rain boots, hat and gloves it just doesn’t make sense to me.
3// past – baskets hid by the bunny
present – baskets right on the table
really, now that these kids are older, there is just no hiding the baskets. there is not very many places you can ‘tuck away’ a big old basket. if there is, chances are i have put it there at some point over the past 14 years. i consider it a win the bunny came and hid the eggs.
4// past – a fun night of dying easter eggs
present – it is 11pm and the bunny will be here soon, get these eggs dyed
it was an event, have dinner, hard boiled eggs were all prepared and ready for fun colors. we bought all of the different egg dyes, added oil, tye dye, shrink wraps, stickers, markers, everyone had an egg with their name on it fun! this year, we came in the door at 10:30pm on easter sunday, thankfully grandma had come over in the day and hard boiled the eggs for us, threw some dye dots in some cups and dyed them several colors which pretty much turned them all shades of green/tan. some had names, but not the names of anyone in our family. total time spent, approx 15 minutes and 36 eggs were done.
5// past – delicious easter brunch with all the fun
present – a cold ham purchased the day after easter with boxed potatoes
this may be the biggest disappointment for me. i love brunch, i love that we get to eat breakfast and lunch together, but this year, it was lame. im pretty sure we didn’t even all eat at the same time.
we were not even home on easter. easter, this year and last, was spent at mccormick place in chicago watching grace and team play in tournament. while this year had a better ending, still times have changed. this year, the younger ones and i had a happy easter group hug, then enjoyed our free breakfast at the hotel, before a full day of volleyball.
but really…we were together and that is what matters. we spent quality time in the car together, and on the home stretch everyone shut down their devices and we sang and danced our way into the driveway. that is the memory that may have replaced dying eggs or a massive hunt and in the end im ok with that. that and we still pound a good couple three packs of peanut butter eggs.
it is that time of year, cleveland marathon time, well in my case cleveland half marathon.
when you live in a cold climate, about late january/early february you need some warm sunshine, like it is imperative! each year, about this time, i need a good dose of vitamin d. i got just that on my getaway to southwest fl.
thankfully my dad and super awesome step mom made the move south several years ago, they are in a good routine, so i can just jump right in.
not that i don’t love my home, and honestly, our winter has been pretty mild, but even so a blast of warm sun can change so much about your attitude. getting out of the dreary cle cold i had to maximize my time. i arrived on thursday late afternoon so i could maximize my 3 full days in the sun.
friday – beach day, we get there early to secure a spot and that is it. sit and soak in the sun. there is plenty of people watching to be done at the beaches of southwest florida. now i did walk on the beach a bit and read my book but successfully completed my goal of a solid base for the mission. this day was topped with a leisurely stroll around target, a super target i might add, this target is ginormious even the lady in line next to me chatted with me about how they just don’t have those types of targets back in her parts. even better for my big lofty goal, i couldn’t really spend any money because i would have had to get the items home. now i realize i could have shipped them home, but honestly this target had all the same items my target has, i was just able to stroll and check them all out, then make a mental note of what i needed upon my return.
saturday – after a morning run, farmers market.
now really that is where i wanted to buy things! i am a sucker for fresh produce, not so much i know what to do with it, i just love the way it looks all spread out on display. and the fruit, oh my goodness, now that looks amazing and i want to purchase it all. but again, not really something i could lug home in my suitcase, so browsing again.
i then moved into the afternoon at the pool…ahhhhh chlorine and sunshine, nothing is better. again, finished my book, which was just an ok book but a good quick read, the rocks.
after all that sun what is the best dinner? pizza, you can’t beat the california pizza oven. bring it!
sunday – this is when i start to get a bit sad. by now i am missing my kiddos and i have a good tingle going on from the sun base, but i know i soon will be leaving the warmth. so after a run, it is back to the pool i go.
having those couple of days away to refresh and recharge is so awesome. thankfully, my co parenting super dad to my kids is able to pull off all the activities at home. there is never a good time to leave, i have found that out, but it is so important to do so. being away makes me refocus my attention to my goals and be a better mom. that is so needed.
the other benefit is getting in good sweaty runs. it is weird, i know, but i love the heat. i love that when you walk out the door, catches you in the chest and takes your breath away kind of heat. what i love more is working out in that heat! i was able to get in good runs each of the days and that kept me up to date of all the happenings in marsh landings. such friendly people there, one even running out of her home offering me water, i must have looked pretty rough at that point.
i always say to my kids when we are running to the car in a snow storm, or freezing outside in the rain, why do we live here? they won’t even move down the street, but as long as i can keep going to get my blast of sun for a couple of days to get me through january, february and march i will make it through until i can get to my beach house permanently.
monday morning bright and early 2 of my girls went in to have their tonsils out. im not much of a remove your organs and surgeries, actually i dont take my kids to the doctor for too much, but this was necessary.
grace gets strep or tonsillitis, ummm…i didnt even know that was a thing until we started this madness, all.the.time. she had strep 6 times in 2016.
mae had tonsils a big as boulders, ok maybe very large river rocks. her tonsils would actually touch each other when she would get sick. that my friends is scary, like she stops breathing scary. she also snores like, well, like her dad, due to the tonsils. most importantly, her breath, like she can knock you over with the dragon breath, with the tonsils gone all of the above should improve.
btw…snoring worse, but im guessing , praying, hoping that is because she is still recovering.
i really liked the tag team thing.
mae went first, after being all prepped in her stylish hat, they rolled her off in a wagon into the or.
i was able to go in with her while she was put under, so pitiful. she was never scared at all, but i thought she looked a bit nervous when she was breathing into the mask, that may have broke me up a bit but i fought through wanting to crawl up onto the table next to her and snuggle in but i left her int he care of the awesome doctors and nurses and made my way over to grace as she was being prepped to go. grace with an iv, creepy!
less than 45 minutes later, mae was rolling out and grace was rolling in. i was able to sit with grace while she went out to dreamland and then headed over to snuggle in with my no tonsils 5 year old. poor mae mae looked at me with her big old brown eyes full of big old tears and screeched ‘i want my tonsils back.’
broke my heart. but what followed…amazing! my sweet little 5 year old snuggled into me and proceeded to lay on me for the next hour sleeping and snoring, really really snoring. there was also some crying. can i tell you how much i miss a sweet baby laying on me sleeping. so amazing!
grace came rolling out and we sat watching her come out of anesthesia, ummm so funny! we were all packed in together in a recovery room, so sweet.
then another hour later we are heading home ready to set up camp on the couch and recover.
which leads me to, my 5 tips to recover from having tonsils out:
1// ice chips – hopefully you have a fridge that spits out chopped ice, it is super handy. if not, pop them into your blender or vita mix and chop some ice. these girls have been eating ice chips consistently for the pat 3 days.
2// tylenol and mortin – keep it coming. my goal in all this was to stay ahead of the pain. i didnt…and still dont want them to have that crazy crash i keep hearing about around day 2-3. more so grace, they say it is tougher on her because she is older. i have my post it note stuck to the counter next to the drugs to keep track of who is getting what and when. mae is switching tylenol/motrin every 4 hours and grace is going tylenol mainly, with some pain pills thrown in there at night. this tylenol she like the best, something about the cool blast, it helps she says.
3// jello – just get all the flavors. we have gone through boxes and bowls of jello. im sticking to the homemade stuff as opposed to the pre packged cause you know nothing but the best homemade treats for my girls. kidding, is boxed jello really considered home made?
4// wake them up – i know, what?? why would you wake a sleeping sick child? because you need to give them the meds and ice chips. wake them up throughout the night, every 4 hours. they need a redose of medicine as well as you need to keep those ice chips moving through. the goal is to keep that sore wet so it doesnt dry out. it seems to be my life goal these days. although, todd does the going to get the medicine and fresh ice chips. i just prop them up and pop it down the hatch. keep those cold ice chips coming.
5// netflix/pawpatrol – get out the ipad, chromebook, dvr any device is needed. i think grace has watched 2 seasons of greys and mae has flipped through all of her 50+ pawpatrols. prop up the cups of ice chips, wrap the ice pack around their neck and snuggle in with a good blanket. this is the hardest part on me, just lay around.
im open to tips, seriously, if you have tips to make this recovery smoother, im ready for them!